Because conflict and disagreements are part of all close relationships, couples need to learn strategies for managing conflict in a healthy and constructive way. Some couples just__50__ and deny the presence of any conflict in a relationship. __51__ ,denying the existence of conflict results in couples _52___ to solve their problems at early__53__ ,which can then lead to even greater problems later on .Not surprisingly, expressing anger and disagreement leads to lower marital (婚姻的)satisfaction at the beginning. However, this pattern of behavior _54___ increases in marital satisfaction over time. Research suggests that working through conflicts is an important predictor of marital satisfaction.
So, what can you do to manage conflict in your own relationships? First, try to understand the other person’s point of view__55__ put yourself in his of her place. People who are _56___ to what their partner thinks and feels _57___ greater relationship satisfaction. For example, researchers found that among people in dating relationships 58____ marriages, those who can adopt their partner’s perspective show more positive emotions, more relationship-enhancing attributes and more constructive responses _59___ conflict.
Second, because conflict and disagreements are an __60__ part of close relationships，people need to be able to apologize to their partner for wrongdoing and __61__ forgiveness from their partners for their own acts. Apologies minimize conflict, lead to forgiveness, and serve to restore relationship closeness. In line with this view, spouses（配偶） who are more forgiving show higher mental quality over time. Increasingly, apologizing can even have _62___ health benefits. For example, when people reflect on hurtful __63__ and grudges(怨恨)，they show negative physiological(生理的) effects, including __64__ heart rate and blood pressure, compared to when they reflect on sympathetic perspective-taking and forgiving.
| 小题1: | | A．resolve | B．regret | C．abandon | D．avoid |
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| 小题2: | | A．Besides | B．Therefore | C．Moreover | D．However |
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| 小题3: | | A．trying | B．declining | C．failing | D．striving |
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| 小题4: | | A．ages | B．years | C．stages | D．intervals |
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| 小题5: | | A．prescribes | B．protests | C．proves | D．predicts |
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| 小题7: | | A．sensitive | B．superior | C．exclusive | D．efficient |
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| 小题8: | | A．expose | B．experience | C．explore | D．exploit |
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| 小题9: | | A．as long as | B．as far as | C．as well as | D．as soon as |
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| 小题10: | | A．to | B．against | C．at | D．toward |
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| 小题11: | | A．absolute | B．inevitable | C．essential | D．obvious |
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| 小题12: | | A．require | B．inquire | C．receive | D．achieve |
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| 小题13: | | A．creative | B．positive | C．objective | D．competitive |
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| 小题14: | | A．prospects | B．concepts | C．memories | D．outlooks |
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| 小题15: | | A．added | B．toughened | C．strengthened | D．increased |
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小题1:D
小题2:D
小题3:C
小题4:C
小题5:D
小题6:D
小题7:A
小题8:B
小题9:C
小题10:A
小题11:B
小题12:C
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试题分析：本文叙述了冲突和分歧是夫妻间的生活不可缺少的组成部分，一些夫妻不能在事件早期解决他们的问题，这可能会导致以后甚至会有更大的问题。要试着理解对方的观点和与对方换位思考一下。人们需要能为他们做错的事情向对方致歉，道歉能使冲突最小化，最后得到谅解。
小题1:考查动词及上下文的呼应。resolve解决； regret后悔； abandon 放弃； avoid避免。结合空格旁边的连词and，可知前后为并列关系，由于后面给出的是deny，故在选项中找与deny意思相近的词即可。故选D。
小题2:考查副词及上下文的呼应。besides此外，而且； therefore因此； moreover此外，而且； however可是。逻辑连词题，一般做法是看前后，找重复，体会变化。我们要兼顾上一句的信息，重复在于denying, conflict, couples基本上本句的开头部分是上一句的重复，但是变化也明显，本句最后讲到更大的问题，也就是把上一句基本都否定掉了，是转折关系。故本题选择However。另外本题也有一个小技巧，besides和moreover的意思和用法是完全一样的，可直接排除，降低题目难度。故选D。
小题3:考查动名词及上下文的呼应。trying尝试； declining下降； failing失败； striving努力。根据下文which can then lead to even greater problems later 可知处理问题失败，故选C。
小题4:考查名词及上下文的呼应。ages年龄； years年；at early stages在早期阶段； intervals间隔。否认冲突的存在导致了在早期阶段没有处理好他们的问题，故选C。
小题5:考查动词及上下文的呼应。prescribes开药方； protests抗议； proves证明；predicts预言。不奇怪的是，在最初时期，表达愤怒和分歧导致了较低的婚姻满意度。根据空格后面的宾语increases（增加，增长），和主语pattern（样式，图案），再结合本句开头的however，前面讲低，后面增长，说明了空格处应该填写一个对未来的增长的预测。故选D。
小题6:考查连词及上下文的呼应。so因此； while尽管； but但是； and表示前后是并列关系。所以说，在你自己的（婚姻）关系中，你要做些什么来管理冲突？试图想想其他人的观点并且可以换位思考一下，故选D。
小题7:考查形容词及上下文的呼应。sensitive敏感的； superior优秀的； exclusive独有的；efficient生效的。那些对他们伴侣的想法和感觉敏感的人会经历更大的（婚姻）关系的满足感。故选A。
小题8:考查动词及上下文的呼应。expose揭露，曝光； experience经历； explore探索；exploit开发。人们应该是讲经历了满足感。故选B。
小题9:考查短语及上下文的呼应。as long as只要； as far as就……而言； as well as和； as soon as一……就。前面是恋爱关系，后面是婚姻，两者相似，故选as well as表示并列，故选C。
小题10:考查介词及上下文的呼应。用to 表示对于冲突而言，故选A。
小题11:考查形容词及上下文的呼应。absolute绝对的； inevitable必然的，不可避免的； essential必要的；obvious显然的。冲突和分歧是婚姻关系中一个不可避免的组成部分，故选B。
小题12:考查动词及上下文的呼应。require要求； inquire询问； receive收到； achieve达到。人们需要因为做错了事而向对方道歉，并且也能得到对方的原谅，故选C。
小题13:考查形容词及上下文的呼应。creative创造性的； positive积极的； objective客观的；competitive比赛的。渐渐地，道歉对身体有积极的健康的益处。故选B。
小题14:考查名词及上下文的呼应。prospects前景； concepts概念； memories回忆； outlooks展望。当人们有受伤的回忆和怨恨时，故选C。
小题15:考查形容词及上下文的呼应。added增加的； toughened坚韧的； strengthened加强的； increased增强的。当人们有受伤的回忆和怨恨时，他们会产生消极的生理的影响，包括心率加快和血压升高。heart rate心率，表达心率加快应该用increased，故用D。
点评：做完形题时要看清上下文，找准定位词。充分利用文章的上下文和前后句，找到对选择有提示作用的词或句。这些词有时可能是同义词或反义词。通顺逻辑，寻求搭配。注意固定的搭配，包括动词与介词的搭配、动词与名词的搭配以及形容词与名词的搭配等，同时要根据内容选择正确的短语。扎实基础，搞清辨异。看清执行者，确定所选词。寻求上下逻辑，从容确定关系。了解生活常识，确定相关知识。 |
核心考点
试题【Because conflict and disagreements are part of all close relationships, couples 】；主要考察你对
题材分类等知识点的理解。
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As soon as I saw the cat in our yard, I knew he was a stray (流浪儿). He looked 36 —a wounded warrior with a badly scarred body.
I started putting out food for him each day, but he wouldn’t come near me if other people were 37 . Winter came, and he still wouldn’t 38 us. Then, one day, a car hit him so we took him to the vet’s.
After a week, we were eager to bring him home to 39 our family. But when we went to take the cat home, the vet told us we should put him to 40 immediately because the cat was so fierce and mean that he would 41 become tame , let alone a pet.
But I have always had 42 in love’s power to 43 even the wildest beasts. I told the vet, “I want to take him home.” We 44 him Paws.
Three days went by, and we only knew Paws was 45 the bed because when we walked past it we heard deep growling.
I wanted to somehow let him know he was 46 and loved. So I put on a hard hat and a pair of welding gloves. I 47 under the bed toward Paws, with my face to the 48 and only the top of my head facing him. I 49 out to stroke (抚摩) him gently over and over again.
He growled and tried to 50 and bite me. It was scary—but I knew he couldn’t 51 me, so I just kept going. Slowly, he began to 52 . Then I slid out from under the bed and left the room.
Several hours later, I noticed a cat on the bed. It was Paws—all 53 on the pillows! I couldn’t believe it.
That dear cat became the 54 of our household. Although Paws finally died of cancer, his legacy(遗赠)—my 55 and firm belief in the power of love — lives on.
| 小题1: | | A．cute | B．strong | C．fierce | D．smart |
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| 小题3: | | A．love | B．attack | C．refuse | D．trust |
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| 小题4: | | A．please | B．join | C．see | D．satisfy |
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| 小题5: | | A．death | B．sight | C．observation | D．sleep |
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| 小题6: | | A．simply | B．hardly | C．easily | D．gradually |
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| 小题7: | | A．sense | B．interest | C．faith | D．feeling |
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| 小题8: | | A．comfort | B．convince | C．protect | D．tame |
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| 小题9: | | A．named | B．appointed | C．accepted | D．made |
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| 小题10: | | A．on | B．beside | C．under | D．inside |
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| 小题11: | | A．hopeful | B．pitiful | C．careful | D．safe |
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| 小题12: | | A．hid | B．slid | C．sheltered | D．slept |
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| 小题14: | | A．turned | B．reached | C．pulled | D．picked |
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| 小题15: | | A．play | B．scratch | C．lick | D．push |
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| 小题16: | | A．hurt | B．bother | C．avoid | D．betray |
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| 小题17: | | A．get angry | B．give up | C．run away | D．calm down |
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| 小题18: | | A．stepped out | B．stood out | C．stretched out | D．stuck out |
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| 小题19: | | A．hope | B．love | C．support | D．comfort |
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| 小题20: | | A．normal | B．noble | C．strange | D．continued |
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I looked at my beautiful Christmas tree and sighed. It was time. The New Year was a week old and my tree still stood in the corner of our room with its collection of memories proudly displayed in a shower of colorful lights. I’d procrastinated（拖延，耽搁）long enough.
I got up, went to the garage and dragged all the boxes into the room. The garland(花环)was the first to come down. The tree looked naked(光秃秃的)already. I took the large ornament（装饰物）off next. They made a large pile on our bed. An hour later, our bed was covered with Christmas memories. Each pile contained an ornament along with its matching brothers and sisters from sets purchased many years ago.
I prepared the boxes and carefully placed ornaments in their protective packaging, pausing every few minutes to admire a favorite. “Hey, little Santa!” I held the Santa from my childhood. “Thanks for being my friend for almost fifty years.” He was a little ragged but still gives me a flood of wonderful memories. “Until next year, my dear friend.”
There was a collection of handmade ones. My children made in the their first years of school, more than twenty years ago. Made by tiny hands, they are far from perfect in design, but every year they go on my memory tree－memories of young giggles(咯咯地笑)on Christmas morning and a smiling face when they handed them to me when I came home from work. “Look what we made, Daddy!”
“Oh! It is beautiful. Let’s find a special spot on the tree for it.” Every year since, they are displayed.
A few hours after I started, the filled boxes were back in the garage, the room was vacuumed(用吸尘器清扫)and I sat staring at a barren(空荡荡的)corner. The room seemed so empty. It took me two days of work to assemble(收集)and decorate my tree, but only a few hours to take it apart.
My tree is like a good marriage or a great friendship. Like the tree, they take a long time to assemble and decorate with memories, but can be torn down quickly.
Every year I have to put my tree away, but not my marriage or friendships. I take great care of those. They get to glow in the corner of my life for as long as I live. I get to analyze my tree and find memories for a few weeks every year. I can do the same with the loves in my life every day. Take great care of your friendships and your marriage. Once they come down, they aren’t as easy to put back together as a Christmas tree. Stand them in that special spot in the corner of your heart and admire their glow.
小题1:In the author’s eyes, the Christmas tree .| A．is a collection of childhood memories | | B．is a symbol of long-lasting relations | | C．takes too much time to decorate | | D．is full of out-of-date ornaments |
小题2:To the author, a Christmas tree is similar to a good marriage in that .| A．both take time to build but fall apart easily | | B．both remind him of bittersweet memories | | C．both need to be admired for some time | | D．both get less attractive over the years |
小题3:What is the main theme of the article?| A．We’d better put away Christmas decorations and recycle them each year. | | B．Friendships and marriages should be valued and managed carefully. | | C．Memories with friends and family should be cherished and relived. | | D．We should decorate Christmas trees with personal stuff and recycle. |
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People often view the “last” moments of an event positively simply because they signal the end of an experience, say experts.
University of Michigan researchers found that even if an experience is painful or negative, but ends on a good note, people will consider it to be positive.
“Endings are powerful,” said Ed O’Brien, a graduate student in the Department of Psychology at the University of Michigan.
O’Brien and colleague Phoebe Ellsworth, the Frank Murphy Distinguished Professor of Law and Psychology, conducted a chocolate tasting experiment with 52 college students to test the theory.
Volunteers could taste five different Hershey’s Kisses chocolates—milk, dark, cream, caramel and almond – but did not know in advance how many pieces they would eat or the type. Participants rated how much they enjoyed the chocolate and described each flavor so that the researchers could record the order in which the randomly (随机的) selected treats were eaten.
Volunteers were assigned to the “next” or the “last ” condition by chance.
In the “next” condition, the experimenter said “Here is your next chocolate” before offering each chocolate, including the fifth.
For the “last” condition, the experimenter said “Here is your last chocolate” before offering the fifth chocolate.
These participants rated the fifth chocolate more enjoyable than volunteers in the “next” condition.
As predicted, participants who knew they were eating the final chocolate of a taste test enjoyed it more.
In fact, when asked to pick their favorite chocolate, the majority of “last” participants chose the fifth – even though the flavor of the fifth was randomly chosen.
They also rated the overall experience as more enjoyable than volunteers who thought they were just eating one more chocolate in a series.
O’Brien says these findings may have far-reaching implications. For example, the last book or film in a series or the last speaker in a symposium (研讨会) may receive unwarranted praise.
The last job applicant, meanwhile, may look more qualified.
小题1:Which of the following is TRUE about the experiment?| A．The majority of “last” participants chose the almond flavor as their favorite. | | B．Some participants enjoyed the experiment more because the last flavor tasted better. | | C．The result would be different if researchers had used another brand of chocolate. | | D．Some participants didn’t know it was their last chocolate when offered the fifth one. |
小题2:What does the underlined word “unwarranted” in the second-to-last paragraph mean?| A．Fake. | B．Unwanted. | C．Unreasonable. | D．Insincere. |
小题3:Which of the following is the best title for the article?| A．“Last” is the best. | | B．Why “last” matters most. | | C．It is the last step that is the hardest. | | D．He who laughs last laughs best. |
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A true apology is more than just acknowledgement of a mistake. It’s recognition that something you’ve said or done has damaged a relationship—and that you care enough about that relationship to want it __46__ .
It’s never __47__ to acknowledge you are in the wrong. Being human, we all need the art of apology. Look back and think how __48__ you’ve judged roughly, said __49__ things, pushed yurself ahead at the expense of a friend. Some deep thought lets us know that when __50__ a small mistake has been made, your __51__ will stay out of balance until the mistake is acknowledged and your regret is __52__.
I remember a doctor friend, telling me about a man who came to him with __53__ illnesses: headache, insomnia, stomachaches and so on. No physical __54__ could be found. Finally the doctor said to the man, “__55__ you tell me what’s on your conscience, I can’t help you.”
After a short silence, the man told the doctor that he __56__ all the money that his father gave to his brother, who was __57__. His father had died, so only he himself knew the matter. The doctor made the man write to his brother making an __58__ and enclosing a __59__. In the post office, the man dropped the letter into the mail box. As the letter disappeared, the man burst into tears. “Thank you, doctor,” he said, “I think I’m all right now.” And he __60__.
| 小题1: | | A．built | B．formed | C．repaired | D．damaged |
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| 小题2: | | A．difficult | B．easy | C．foolish | D．shy |
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| 小题3: | | A．long | B．often | C．much | D．soon |
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| 小题4: | | A．unusual | B．harmful | C．worthless | D．unkind |
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| 小题5: | | A．hardly | B．even | C．only | D．such |
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| 小题6: | | A．sense | B．brain | C．weight | D．feeling |
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| 小题7: | | A．apologized | B．explained | C．offered | D．expressed |
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| 小题8: | | A．strange | B．fatal | C．various | D．dangerous |
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| 小题9: | | A．sign | B．injury | C．cause | D．symptom |
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| 小题10: | | A．Whenever | B．Unless | C．Suppose | D．Although |
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| 小题11: | | A．neglected | B．accepted | C．seized | D．wasted |
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| 小题12: | | A．mad | B．lost | C．abroad | D．dead |
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| 小题13: | | A．order | B．excuse | C．agreement | D．apology |
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| 小题14: | | A．note | B．card | C．check | D．photo |
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Last week my youngest son and I visited my father at his new home in Tucson, Arizona. He moved there a few years ago, and I was eager to see his now place and meet his friends.
My earliest memories of my father are a tall, handsome, successful man devoted to his work and family but uncomfortable with his children. As a child I loved him; as a school girl and young adult(成年人)I feared him and felt bitter about him. He seemed unhappy with me unless I got straight A’s and unhappy with my boy friends if their fathers were not as “successful” as he was. Whenever I went out with him on weekends, I used to struggle to think up things to say, feeling on guard.
On the first day of my visit, we went out with one of my father’s friends for lunch at an outdoor cafe. We walked along that afternoon, did some shopping, ate on the street table, and laughed over my son’s funny facial expressions. Gone was my father’s critical(挑剔的)air and strict rules. Who was this person I knew as my father, who seemed so friendly and interesting to be around? What had held him back before?
The next day my dad pulled out his childhood pictures and told me quite a few stories about his own childhood. Although our times together became easier over the years, I never felt closer to him at that moment. After so many years, I’m at last seeing another side of my father. And in so doing, I’m delighted with my new friend. My dad, in his new home in Arizona, is back to me from where he was.
小题1:Why did the author feel bitter about her father as a young adult?| A．He was silent most of the time | B．He was too proud of himself | | C．He did not love his children | D．He expected too much of her |
小题2:When the author went out with her father on weekends, she would feel .| A．nervous | B．sorry | C．tired | D．safe |
小题3:What does the author think of her father after her visit to Tucson?| A．More critical | B．More talkative | | C．Gentle and friendly | D．Strict and hard-working |
小题4:The underlined words “my new friend” in the last paragraph refer to .| A．the author’s son | B．the author’s father | | C．the friend of the author’s father | D．the cafe owner |
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